“I wasn’t sure I wanted to be a mother because I’d bought into the narrative that motherhood saps creative energy. I was looking for role models who were both mothers and writers, and I started taking women writers to lunch and asking, ‘How do you do it? How do you balance everything?’ Their answer was almost always, ‘I don’t. My life is a shit show.’ It was liberating to realize that the idea of ‘having it all’ is a myth I could abandon, and instead work toward ‘doing what’s important.’”